We Help Women Dealing With Narcissism or Codependency in Their Relationships
If your partner lacks empathy towards you, needs constant attention, or you engage in mutually self-destructive tendencies, you may be in a codependent or narcissistic relationship.
What is Narcissism?
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (listed in the DSM-5) is ultimately a disorder of self-esteem.
Often these behavioural traits include grandiosity, need for admiration, lack of empathy. It is characterized by variable and vulnerable self-esteem with attempts at regulation through attention and approval seeking and either overt or covert grandiosity.
As women – and especially when we are in a new relationship – we are socialized to give second chances, third chances and chronically turn the other cheek. We want our relationships to work out (especially if they took a long time to find). The warm “fuzzies” of a new relationship can lead us to forgive repeatedly. But often in hindsight, we can begin to unravel each incident or behaviour through different eyes when we realize that we have been living in a toxic and destructive relationship where we have been used, disrespected and even discarded.
If this seems too familiar to you, reach out for help. We’re here to help you find your summer.
Identifying the Signs of a Narcissist
Here are some of the most common traits of a narcissist:
What is Codependency?
Co-dependency is defined as a failure to complete the essential developmental process of secure bonding and the developmental tasks associated with it. This creates experiences often characterized by:
- Worried about being alone
- Feeling trapped in abusive, controlling relationships
- Having low self-esteem
- Needing constant approval and support from others in order to feel good about yourself
- Feeling powerless to change destructive relationships
- Needing alcohol, food, work, sex or some other outside stimulation to distract from your feelings
- Having undefined psychological boundaries
- Feeling like a martyr
- Being a people-pleaser
- Being unable to experience true intimacy and love
In order to gain self and move towards a path of feeling “whole”, there are a number of steps in order to move you along the path. This journey takes time, motivation and some genuine acceptance of self.
With the right understanding, guidance and toolset, we help our clients:
- stop being dependent on people or things outside yourself
- have a solid inner sense of uniqueness and of who you are
- get close to others without fearing you will lose yourself
- effectively meet your needs by asking others directly when you need help
- maintain positive self-esteem even when criticized by others
- be in relationships that are give and take
- say no when you mean no
- depend on yourself to meet your needs