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Narcissism or Codependency Counselling in Markham, ON

Live a life of feeling whole, validated and experience being heard, as part of your healing journey

Here’s how we 
help you

We Help People Dealing With Narcissism or Codependency in Their Relationships

If your partner lacks empathy towards you, needs constant attention, or you engage in mutually self-destructive tendencies, you may be in a codependent or narcissistic relationship.

 
If you are experiencing:

This is what we can
achieve together

Online & In-Person
Therapy

Offering mental health support through virtual and in-person sessions across Ontario and in Markham. Online therapy for flexibility; in-person sessions in Markham for a traditional touch, catering to diverse preferences for mental well-being.

Flexible
Appointments

We have appointments that fit your schedule, with evenings and weekends available to ensure flexibility. Our goal is to provide convenient options for your mental health needs, accommodating diverse schedules and making support accessible on your terms.

Experienced
Therapists

Comprehensive care: Our offerings include Narcissistic Abuse Therapy, DBT, EFT, and Mindfulness care. Tailored treatment options for your holistic well-being and personalized growth.

Identifying the Signs of a Narcissist

Here are some of the most common traits of a narcissist:

What is
Narcissism?

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (listed in the DSM-5) is ultimately a disorder of self-esteem.

Often these behavioural traits include grandiosity, need for admiration, lack of empathy. It is characterized by variable and vulnerable self-esteem with attempts at regulation through attention and approval seeking and either overt or covert grandiosity.

As women – and especially when we are in a new relationship – we are socialized to give second chances, third chances and chronically turn the other cheek.  We want our relationships to work out (especially if they took a long time to find).  The warm “fuzzies” of a new relationship can lead us to forgive repeatedly.  But often in hindsight, we can begin to unravel each incident or behaviour through different eyes when we realize that we have been living in a toxic and destructive relationship where we have been used, disrespected and even discarded.

If this seems too familiar to you, reach out for help. 

Common behaviors of a narcissist
  • Lack of Empathy – Yawning or behaviour that shows that on a regular basis he is not listening when you speak: picking up his devices, looking around instead of at you when you are speaking, or yawning while you are speaking.  
  • Grandiosity – Talking about things or sharing stories where things are “larger than life” details such as the great love story” or the idea of an “ideal love”. 
  • Entitled – Treating service employees badly, such as bartenders, clerks, valet parking staff, restaurant servers, doormen, desk clerks with entitled behaviour and looking for upgrades and perks.  
  • Anger & Rage – Inappropriate displays of anger such as how he drives.  Erratic, cutting off other drivers, criticizing them, tailing them closely and cursing at them.  Also outbursts of rage randomly which are disproportionate to the circumstances
  • Overprotective & Intrusive – Being protective of his phone with obsessive zeal and will have passwords that are fiercely guarded yet asking endless questions about whom you are going to see, and where you have been, and to even go so far as to snoop into your electronic world.
  • Hypersensitive – He is too sensitive, but then you transitioned to thinking that maybe it was you who was not being nice enough, and then over time you may have become more and more careful to the point of self-censorship.
  • Jealousy – Early escalation of jealousy where they would be suspicious and ask lots of questions, even sneaking peeks at phones and emails, and stalking social media accounts.  They would limit or forbid contact with friends with whom there could be a possible romantic interest.  This gets interpreted as “care” rather than controlling and isolating behaviour.
  • Lying – The longer and more confused the story, the greater the likelihood it is a fiction.  Pay attention to when the numbers don’t add up and when things do not make sense.  Because over time, lying can take a genuine toll on your psyche and impact all of your relationships and your ability to trust. 

These are a few indicators, and there are many more! Also remember not every narcissist is the same.

What is
Codependency?

Co-dependency is defined as a failure to complete the essential developmental process of secure bonding and the developmental tasks associated with it. This creates experiences often characterized by:

  • Worried about being alone
  • Feeling trapped in abusive, controlling relationships
  • Having low self-esteem
  • Needing constant approval and support from others in order to feel good about yourself
  • Feeling powerless to change destructive relationships
  • Needing alcohol, food, work, sex or some other outside stimulation to distract from your feelings
  • Having undefined psychological boundaries
  • Feeling like a martyr
  • Being a people-pleaser
  • Being unable to experience true intimacy and love

    In order to gain self and move towards a path of feeling “whole”, there are a number of steps in order to move you along the path. This journey takes time, motivation and some genuine acceptance of self.

Overcoming Codependency  

With the right understanding, guidance and toolset, we help our clients: 

  • stop being dependent on people or things outside yourself
  • have a solid inner sense of uniqueness and of who you are
  • get close to others without fearing you will lose yourself
    effectively meet your needs by asking others directly when you need help
  • maintain positive self-esteem even when criticized by others
    be in relationships that are give and take
  • say no when you mean no
    depend on yourself to meet your needs

Process

How does therapy work?

Ready for change

Being ready for change means embracing uncertainty and growth. It requires courage, commitment, and openness to new possibilities. Embrace the journey and trust in your ability to navigate through challenges, knowing that each step forward brings you closer to personal transformation and fulfillment.

Goal setting

In order to work out your current situation, we help you set goals and an action plan to achieve those goals. We help you challenge yourself, leave your comfort zone and achieve the goals you set, devising strategies & helping develop the skills you need as you go.

 

Accountability

We help keep you accountable to the goals you set. Self-improvement journeys ​typically involve a lot of hard work, emotional discussions and sometimes tough ​decisions. We’ll support you every step the way. We’re gentle, but we’re also ​honest.

 

Continuous improvement

The work doesn’t stop once you achieve your goals. Your relationship with ​yourself & others, your life situation, job and other factors will continually ​evolve. We’ll help you develop the mindset, awareness and skillset to avoid or, if ​necessary, deal with future challenges.

 

Our Team

Meet our
Clinic Team

Sonya Gandhi

Anita Morar

Mun Yee Lee

Start Changing Your Season Today

Our mission is to help move you through these phases of life, just like the seasons, to a place of calm and acceptance.

If you are ready to discover, explore & move forward, we are ready to help.