Counselling for children and youth in Vaughan, ON
Children naturally go through challenges as they grow into adults. With the right support, you can help them thrive
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Our Children’s Therapy & Counselling Services Help Amazing Kids Become Amazing Adults!
The transition between childhood and adulthood can be rocky. With the right help, we can help your child navigate these challenges with strength, courage and confidence!
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Online & In-Person
Comprehensive care: Our offerings include Narcissistic Abuse Therapy, DBT, EFT, and Mindfulness care. Tailored treatment options for your holistic well-being and personalized growth.
Child and Adolescent
As children and teenagers grow, they may struggle with a variety of challenges at home and school such as anxiety, depression, behavioural issues, social difficulties, self-esteem problems, academic challenges, trauma, and other emotional and psychological difficulties.
These challenges can get in the way of their overall development. Through child and adolescent psychotherapy, young individuals between the ages of 5 and 18, are empowered to better understand their emotions, how their bodies respond to emotions, and develop healthier ways of coping with life’s challenges. We aim to create treatment experiences that are engaging and effective by using a combination of talk therapy and play therapy techniques. Psychotherapy can also be a helpful tool when just looking to better understand our own internal system, and work through emotions. This can help us develop coping strategies and learn to regulate emotions.
Our goal is to support young people’s emotional well-being and foster positive growth!
The amygdala, a small, almond-shaped structure inside the brain, plays a key role in emotional processing and control, particularly during anger. It is essential for survival as it processes what you see or hear, using that input to automatically detect danger. Childhood brains are wired to react swiftly to perceived threats or frustrations.
The prefrontal cortex is responsible for executive functions, processing information from the environment, analyzing that input in relation to past experiences, and deciding how to react to the situation. It also serves in impulse control, regulating emotions, thoughts, and behavior by connecting with other brain regions. When children experience a stress response or threat, the amygdala would be triggered and diminish a child’s already-limited capacity for self-control, leading to the shutdown of the frontal lobe and activating fight-flight-freeze natural stress responses to perceived threats.
Just a Few of the Areas That Our Children’s Therapy & Youth Counselling Services Can Help With …
Parenting a child with ADHD is very different from parenting a child without. When we think of the strategies and basics of parenting, we think of rules, routines, reinforcement, and consequences. Depending on the severity of the symptoms, different approaches are needed as it can be challenging when coping with some of these behaviours. Self-doubt can creep in for parents, who are trying their best to support a child with ADHD, but sometimes to no avail. But their brains are wired differently, and impulse control is minimal.
That’s where being educated around behaviour management can be helpful. First deciding which behaviours are acceptable and which are not, and then utilizing a number of strategies using reinforcement and consequences helps your child to understand and work on controlling impulses to avoid consequences (natural or imposed).
Something to remember: ADHD children require structure, tasks that are in manageable pieces, organization, limited distractions, regulated sleep, exercise and the encouragement of out-loud thinking…. And so many more “do’s”. But just as important is not to neglect your needs as parents!
Exposure to Conflict
What we know about violence, is that no matter what age you are, it’s scary! Children being so vulnerable have difficulty understanding what is going on, feel fear, anxiety, feel constantly on guard and helpless because they can’t control what is going on in their environment. Some of the symptoms include:
- Increased crying and whining
- Difficulty falling asleep or staying asleep
- Show signs of terror – such as stuttering or hiding
- Signs of severe separation anxiety
- Feel guilt about the abuse and blame themselves
- Low self-esteem
- Educational effects
- Strained relationships
- Fewer friends at school
- Headaches, stomach aches
- Get into trouble more at school
- Skipping school
- High risk behaviours such as having unprotected sex, using substances
- Bully others
- Start fights
- Get in trouble with the law
- Experience other health problems such as mental health issues, anxiety and depression Perfectionism
Children are therefore at a greater risk of being in violent relationships in their future, as they have been forced to develop coping strategies to negotiate that environment.
Something to remember: Children have normalized their experience of the violence, and then actually seek out relationships because it’s an environment that they know how to manage in. Therefore, the areas that can support recovery include having a good support system, good relationships with trusted adults, increasing their self-esteem and encouraging healthy friendships.
- Talking to them about their fears
- Helping them feel safe
- Talking about healthy relationships
- Helping them find a reliable support system
- Teaching them about healthy boundaries
Separation & Divorce
We never put the children in the middle”. So often parents report this to professionals when working to negotiate the dissolution of a marriage. Yet, intentionally or unintentionally, parents in fact do place their children in the middle. For example, asking children to pass messages because of challenges in communication between the adults and hoping that the message coming from the child will lead to a different result. Unfortunately, children become very uncomfortable and even anxious when they become the shuttle between the parents.
What is common for children, is to stop sharing with each parent what happens in each of the homes. Children develop protective strategies, especially when there is heightened anger and animosity between parents. Children learn that if they have fun with one parent, the other parent is not prepared to hear it and place judgement and unhappiness towards the child.
Something to remember: Children are made up of both parents. If one parent expresses hatred towards the other parent, a child experiences that that parent hates part of them.
What do we know about an angry child?
- Anger is a significant emotion in children, conveying an important message that requires your attention.
- An angry child is often overwhelmed and distressed, struggling with emotions they can’t regulate.
- The child may feel their personal boundaries are crossed, believing they deserve or need something that is being deliberately withheld from them—be it the cookie, the video game, or a toy—and cannot deal with the sense of injustice.
What Causes Anger Issues In A Child?
- Biological Causes: Temperament, Heredity, and Neurodevelopmental Disorders
- Environmental Factors: Stressful or unpredictable environments, changes in routine, exposure to conflict, child maltreatment, and abuse.
- Unmet Needs: a child’s basic needs, such as hunger, sleep, or attention, are not being adequately addressed.
- Parent’s Emotional Reaction: Children may model and mimic their parents’ behavior based on what they observe.
- Communication Challenges: Children are still developing their emotional regulation skills and may not even know what’s bothering them or lack the verbal skills to express their emotions, leading to frustration and anger.
- Need for Control: Anger can be a means for a child to assert control, especially if they feel overwhelmed or perceive a lack of autonomy.
Our Holistic Approach?
Our team also provide support concurrently for parents, in order to provide a holistic approach. Parenting is rewarding and also a labour of love. We will support you as parents with the ups and downs to support your child’s health, positive functioning and well-being.
How to Explain Therapy to Your Child?
Some parents find it difficult to explain therapy to their child. When discussing why therapy would be supportive and helpful, it is important to emphasize its purpose and benefit while also reassuring them that therapy is not a punishment; but rather a safe and supportive space for them. It is essential to convey that therapy is not to fix something that is wrong with them, and that it is about helping them with what they are experiencing and better understanding themselves. Having this conversation with your child would lay the foundation for a positive and productive therapeutic experience.
How does therapy work?
Ready for change
Being ready for change means embracing uncertainty and growth. It requires courage, commitment, and openness to new possibilities. Embrace the journey and trust in your ability to navigate through challenges, knowing that each step forward brings you closer to personal transformation and fulfillment.
In order to work out your current situation, we help you set goals and an action plan to achieve those goals. We help you challenge yourself, leave your comfort zone and achieve the goals you set, devising strategies & helping develop the skills you need as you go.
We help keep you accountable to the goals you set. Self-improvement journeys typically involve a lot of hard work, emotional discussions and sometimes tough decisions. We’ll support you every step the way. We’re gentle, but we’re also honest.
The work doesn’t stop once you achieve your goals. Your relationship with yourself & others, your life situation, job and other factors will continually evolve. We’ll help you develop the mindset, awareness and skillset to avoid or, if necessary, deal with future challenges.
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Our mission is to help move you through these phases of life, just like the seasons, to a place of calm and acceptance.
If you are ready to discover, explore & move forward, we are ready to help.